LustyArgonian

Deck you? She could have shot you or had you arrested. You illegally assaulted her. Period.

I 100% understand you never learned to keep your hands to yourself due to shitty parents and your own belief system.

if I was wasn’t the person she called to come over when she was scared at night and wasn’t her flatmate for a year before this event. At the time she was a sister to me and my SO and watching her not listen to basic safety was frustrating.

This is you describing codependency. This is not typical of all relationships, just codependent ones.

You wanted her to be scared of you. Not all men, but you. And if she’s scared of you, you think she will be under your control. Because you think it’s okay for men to seize bodily autonomy from women. I’m going to guess you have stupid ideas about child support, abortion, and marriage too.

What you’re saying is in “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft. Nothing new, nothing interesting, just justifications for why you give yourself permission to harm others.

Being familiar to her makes you MORE likely to abuse her, which is exactly what you did. Again, legally, you could be arrested for assault, battery, and possibly she could’ve legally killed you (if you had done that to me, you would be dead immediately FYI). That’s how clear the law is that what you did was wrong - you could have died over this and no one would’ve been on your side.

Codependency isn’t an excuse to assault someone.

I don’t hurt my sisters. “Like a sister” - you attacked her. Not only could you be charged with a crime, she also could completely reasonably use legal lethal force against you in that scenario in many states. FYI most killers are known to their victims beforehand, so that you know her actually makes you more likely to kill her compared to a stranger.

You just don’t want to let go of abusing others so you are making excuses.

Everyone deserves housing. This is something ants and bees have mastered. I am as good as an ant - ofc I think you can have free housing

Thank you! I have thought about this topic a lot because of many homeless people, former foster kids, former adopted kids, and former abused kids I have spoken with.

Most kids are fine being around even shitty caregivers. It takes a LOT for a kid to even desire to want to leave, and when we factor in legal consequences for their parents and the legal process, they are not able to leave, and their parents have reasons to block it. If we just had apartments for them that they could go to, no judgement, no hassle, no worries that they will send their mom and dad to jail for 10 years, it would prevent a lot of pain. And ofc they can always deal with the legal stuff later if they want to. Asking an abused kid actively being abused to make these huge legal decisions to escape abuse is too much, they should be able to just leave safely - and return safely per their own judgement.

Side conversation but the homeless’s societal role as witnesses and helpers is a major part of why fascists want to get rid of them. I literally feel safer walking by myself if there’s visible campers nearby than if the street is totally empty. Many really do see a lot and help a lot.

The world isn’t safe, and acknowledging that reality (including frequency, ie if it really isn’t often) means we can thoughtfully address it. Yeah for a kid being SA’d at home, being outside is indeed safer for the most part, but it isn’t completely safe. I often still get harassed as an adult woman by random men - idk how they would treat a lone little girl if they are approaching my mean ass like that. Further, I was groped by thousands, literally thousands, of strangers as a kid, particularly in lines and crowds. It’s a LOT of people who molest kids.

Fascists will use ANY excuse to enact fascism though, it’s not the fault of people identifying and describing danger. Fascists are narcissists working together, and their type of fascism is what gives them narcissistic supply. Narcissistic supply is essentially a drug addiction, something they compulsively seek out.

Children are legally a type of slave in the US, usually of their parents or guardians but sometimes of their spouse or the state. Of course this isn’t explicitly called slavery like the 13th amendment, but when we look at their rights, we can see it’s indeed how the legal process works for them. Addressing and reversing this would go a long way for abolitionism. Kids are almost never granted more power for themselves or more freedoms. Most “for the children” rhetoric tends to advocate for removing even more of their freedoms and power. It’s really really sad.

You are legally allowed to physically harm your child “within reason” (aka stopping short of whatever the law defines as child abuse in a jurisdiction). You are allowed to starve them a little, “within reason.” You can deny them any privileges you want and lock them in your house - “within reason.”

If the kid calls the police and it’s not obvious child abuse that could result in death, the police inform the kid that parents can do as they please with their children for discipline and they leave the kids with those parents.

You can deny medical care (including abortions and birth control) - “within reason.” You can force them to go to institutions and educational facilities.

Kids work and guess who legally can access their paychecks and all their money? Their parents/owners (see: Honey Boo Boo’s finances, Aaron Carter’s finances with his parents). Parents can and do withhold capital and money from their children to coerce behaviors from them. Kids work and pay income tax, yet cannot vote or run for office.

Parents can allow them to be married in MANY US states. An adult having sexual relations with their spouse who is a minor is EXEMPT from statutory rape laws (and let’s acknowledge the human trafficking element of this). A child in a marriage contract often then belongs to their spouse instead of their parent and must similarly ask their spouse for help and permission. Because marriage contracts are contracts, kids have a hard time divorcing as minors due to this, let alone accessing legal representation itself.

Kids have almost no capital or power by design. Until kids can get rights, this country will be fucked up. We cannot raise humans in a slave environment and then expect them to not have learned helplessness and issues. Kids should be able to emancipate themselves immediately and easily to live in their own apartment with social workers (wearing bodycams, subject to randim audit or audit based on reports) who check on them as appropriate for their age. Parents should have VERY limited rights to their children compared to present day, and CHILDREN instead should be granted rights to their parents which they can waive, or be compensated for if the parent is unable to fulfill their obligations. Obviously child marriage should be illegal.

Children should NOT be their parent’s property. Children should belong to themselves.

This would also help with fostering/“adoption”, which is kinda human trafficking (and I’ve had family be adopted, so I am familiar that the adoptive parents don’t see it like this) and which trades the child around like they have no rights at all and like they are property. If a child had rights to their birth parents (or to emancipate themselves), they can then leave bad adoptive parents.

The entire adoption system is actually wild if you think about it - eg antiabortion clinics convince poor women to adopt out through a sister agency which explicitly is also Christian and adopts these kids into Christian homes (a requirement by the agency). The adoptive parents pay the agency, which takes a cut of that money and then gives a little to the birth mom for medical expenses. It’s just converting children to Christianity (often white Christians taking Native American/Latino indigenous American’s babies) via making everyone poor, not giving the bio parents or child charity directly, and denying medical access unless they sell their kid.

Give children rights.

Also, giving kids the right to vote would be a start in the right direction. No taxation without representation, and we have child actors and performers paying millions in taxes. They deserve representation. Maybe they’d vote to change the laws so their parents (owners) weren’t legally entitled to their money or bodies.

Bonus policy idea regarding education: https://lemmy.world/post/19553029/12277181

You need plausible deniability and proximity to get away with abuse of kids, and parents have the most of both.

However, I was groped thousands of times as a kid in lines by strangers. And I mean THOUSANDS. To this day I do not like strangers standing behind me.

I was almost nearly abducted off the street as a kid.

So yes, strangers can still be an issue, even if parents and other people with more proximity are more often the bigger issue.

Eh idk, I was nearly snatched off the street by a stranger, very similar to the Morgan Nick case, back in 1998. Virtually every park in the US has creeps patrolling it looking for homeless, especially kids. See Emily Perez case - she ran away to a local park and was taken from there by an unknown person who likely monitors the park for such things.

World isn’t as safe as you’d think.

We need to allow children to immediately and easily emancipate themselves from their parents and go live in their own apartment w caregivers via assisted living.

We literally roamed the neighborhoods in feral packs on bikes

Granted I was 100% almost kidnapped once but still

That first paragraph is you admitting it is about control.

Yes, that’s how bodily autonomy works - you say your piece and let people do what they want with their own body. She literally could have had you arrested and charged with assault, maybe battery depending on her injuries. You don’t get to grab others with your no no grabby hands. Didn’t you learn that in preschool?

How weirdly controlling and abusive of you.

No shit it’s both, have you never heard of intersectionality before?

Lol good luck, the entire thing that makes it so powerful is the collective

Copyright is a leftover mechanism from slavery and it will be interesting to see how it gets challenged here, given that the wealthy view AI as an extension of themselves and not as a normal employee. Genuinely think the copyright cases from AI will be huge.

Look at the Pythia rat to see how badly this affects real science. Unreality makes it quite difficult to observe reality

Maybe they just have enough incel misogyny already

Fascism, control, having the money to trawl through less popular socials to find dissidents

Social media functions as a trafficking service 🎵 🎶